Hi Friends. It’s been a minute, I know. I have been healing, which is a super hard thing to do but oh so necessary.
Healing from childhood traumas, healing from self hatred, healing from offenses and unforgiveness I didn’t realize were there and hindering me from my own peace.
So many tears have been shed for myself and for others, cleansing my soul like a fresh spring rain. My eyelash extensions are not loving me lately.
It is so hard to let go of things that so do not belong to us, especially when the hurt runs so deep. I have great news though if you are willing to put in the work it takes. The burden is not ours to carry. We want to hold on to it because we do not remember there is a different way to live. Drop it like it’s hot.
It’s people that cause the hurt. Humans are messy. I love humans. But we are a hot mess.
What if you looked at that person who causes pain in your life, whether it be a parent, a family member, an ex spouse, a spouse, a teacher, a pastor, a friend, yourself….what if we looked at that person or people through the lens of love instead of living the pain over and over again? What if they simply didn’t know any different? I know I have caused hurt when I didn’t know how to deal with situations. For a while, it was easier to lash out and cut out. Reject before rejected. A. Hot. Mess.
What if we shrink these people who cause pain down to baby size, wrap them in a soft blankie, and carry them to Jesus? The battles are His. I like to picture the cross where Jesus died a horrific death so we can live, and I put that person who has caused me pain at the foot of the cross, tucked in nice and cozy. It helps me love them. Not always to LIKE them, because we don’t have to LIKE everybody, but to love them.
I’m not saying to go back to the abuse or the toxic or the pain. Do not miss this. Why would you keep putting your hand in a basket of snakes if you are going to continue to be bit and poisoned?
Releasing the pain and the person and the offense to Jesus FREES US, Friends.
I know I am guilty of saying, “I will NEVER forgive him/her for _________.” Who does that hurt? Not them. It only keeps me stuck in a cycle of unforgiveness.
I challenge you to try this imagery. When someone causes you pain, picture Jesus, the Cross, whatever represents freedom for you. Wrap the person up and place them at the foot of freedom. Enjoy unlocking true peace.
Love,
Tahnee XOXO
